28 March 2008

And another thing...

I don't think this is really anything new. I've always known that the men who showed any aggression toward me because I'm gay had their own demons to wrestle:

Homophobic "Straight" Men

Here's the article:

Is homophobia associated with homosexual arousal?

Department of Psychology, University of Georgia, Athens 30602-3013, USA.

The authors investigated the role of homosexual arousal in exclusively heterosexual men who admitted negative affect toward homosexual individuals. Participants consisted of a group of homophobic men (n = 35) and a group of nonhomophobic men (n = 29); they were assigned to groups on the basis of their scores on the Index of Homophobia (W. W. Hudson & W. A. Ricketts, 1980). The men were exposed to sexually explicit erotic stimuli consisting of heterosexual, male homosexual, and lesbian videotapes, and changes in penile circumference were monitored. They also completed an Aggression Questionnaire (A. H. Buss & M. Perry, 1992). Both groups exhibited increases in penile circumference to the heterosexual and female homosexual videos. Only the homophobic men showed an increase in penile erection to male homosexual stimuli. The groups did not differ in aggression. Homophobia is apparently associated with homosexual arousal that the homophobic individual is either unaware of or denies.

PMID: 8772014 [PubMed - indexed for MEDLINE]

Happy is A Bumpy Road

I am borrowing the title of this post from a Supremes album, "Touch," that my youngest sister received as a gift many years ago. I can't remember if it was for Christmas or her birthday, but I guess that is inconsequential.

Many of my 2008 posts have been dreary. It's not because I have wanted to be dreary, but we've been hit pretty hard with some lows since the New Year.

Since last Sunday, though, I have been meaning to post about what a great Easter weekend Cameron and I had together. I was off work for Good Friday so the holiday was off to a good start.

The weather was nice all weekend. We started out Friday with a little housework -- nothing major or nerve-wrecking. A little laundry. A little vacuuming and dusting. We visited with Charles that evening (who was in town from Ft. Lauderdale) over cocktails at Dan and Lori's with David and Summer before dinner later at Molly's. Even though I was plauged with one of my hiccup fits it was a nice night.

Saturday we had lunch at a new place, Cafe Eclectic. Food was good, and service (although very personable) not so much. That night Cameron helped me make a batch of Dolmathes -- this always takes hours -- which were the basis for our more or less Greek Easter dinner. Well, that and the Leg of Lamb.

Sunday was an awesome day. Usually when we're having guests for dinner I work all day in the kitchen and still end up not ready when they arrive. Not this time. It was a relaxing, fantastic day. I baked a toasted coconut cake with seven minute frosting from scratch (photo to come), made deviled eggs with crab and horseradish, prepared a Lebanese lima bean salad with homemade lemon-garlic dressing, roasted the leg of lamb and a separate dish of rosemary roasted potatoes and tossed a simple greek salad with feta, tomatoes, onions and balsamic vinaigrette. I prepped the bar while Cameron took some dolmathes and lima bean salad over to Dan and Lori. She is part greek and loves the dolmathes -- not that the two are really related. But I use a recipe she shared with me many years ago when I make them and I always want to share with her.

When David and John arrived for dinner I was making the malt vinegar, sugar, mint concoction that I found for traditional mint sauce. Dinner was lovely. It was a nice weekend all the way around.

The bump happened yesterday.

Heading home from the gym, I was driving west on Jackson Avenue. As I approached the left turn lane onto our street the driver of a blue 1996 GMC Jimmy suddenly flipped on his left signal (from the right lane) and jumped behind me in the turn lane. Because this was very suspicious and reminiscent of what I imagine might happen during the recent rash of "driveway robberies" I passed my driveway, waved at neighbors as I made my way around the circle and exited on to Jackson, driving east. I looked into the circle and noticed the blue GMC turning around in a neighbor's driveway. As I approached the next intersection I turned right on to University Street, then immediately right onto Hallwood. I made a U-turn around a traffic median on to Oakmont, back onto Hallwood and approached University Street again. As I was turning left the blue GMC was turning right onto the street I was leaving. They quickly turned around and followed me back out onto Jackson heading west again. This time I punched it past my street through four intersections down to Hein Park. In my rear view I saw the GMC turn around a block past my street.

Whether or not these men were up to no good is still a mystery to me -- but, it seems obvious that they were. After discussing the situation with my neighbors I called the police. They came out and listened to what I had to say. The officer wasn't sure if it was reportable, but he said that it did sound very suspicious and he'd try to file a report.

I'm grateful that I pay attention to my surroundings when I'm driving. I, too, am grateful that someone is watching over me.

And, I'm grateful that Cameron is back in the states. I can call him now.

18 March 2008


To say I've been remiss about posting would be an understatement. Add that I'm posting during commercials while watching "The Biggest Loser" is almost a travesty if not a full-fledged one. But I realized while a K-mart commercial aired touting "themed" Easter baskets* that I have a bit of pent up griping to do and some praises to sing. Apologetically, the gripes are what inspired me to post. Perhaps, Eric is right. He says I'm a bitch. Sometimes a "complete" or "total" bitch.

I argue that I have expectations of society that most cannot live up to and that I will not be a victim of the heathens. So, if that makes me a bitch, so be it. I'm OK with that.

There are rights and wrongs. There are rules. There are hideous distortions of tradition that simply make me very much like Michael Douglas in "Falling Down." Exactly how much can we distort our vision to make "whatever" work for us?

Good Lord, this is getting very complicated.

Eric and I discussed my lament over a cigarette behind the office this evening as I was leaving to come home. Eric surmised that he and I may be hyper-sensitive to those who feel like they can circumvent "the rules". Admittedly, I drive 80 to 85 m.p.h. on the expressway. And if we care to get into a deeper discussion about rules, I'll say I reject the "rules" as were taught to me at the Southern Baptist church in which I was reared.

I have learned and now believe that the God I worship is not the one who rejected my family through "God's vessel" and church secretary, Opal Huffman. Once, when Opal remarked to my mother, "we missed you last Sunday," my mother replied that she had accompanied my sisters to a Girl Scout weekend at Camp Honor Bright. "Oh, you're one of those," Opal said.

Give me a break, Opal. While I continue to work on understanding how I fit into this universe, I'm not judging a young mother who is trying her best to do what's right for her children and for herself. Sure, I'm not without guilt. But, and this is a very big "but," I try my best to treat everyone as I expect to be treated.

I like to think most people do this. But I fear that I am wrong.

Eric recounted his last trip through Atlanta-Hartsfield where a bunch of guys basically wormed their way through the zig-zag stanchions, saying "excuse me" (or not), cutting by, in front of, and over all the folks (apparently hundreds) who had already waited in line as expected. Their excuse when questioned? "We're late."

I feel like our society has increasingly shrugged responsibility. People are walking all over others with no remorse. People are putting themselves in bad financial risk, speculating on real estate or overextending in order to keep up appearances and expect the government to bail them out. People are getting away with murder.

Religious affiliation is inconsequential to me. If you don't understand the concepts of reverence, respect, and the like -- God, Allah, Budda, or that freak Scientologist and weirdo-couch-jumping-fool Tom Cruise, help you.

And if you're peddling "themed Easter Baskets," Damn you. Isn't Easter theme enough?

Since when is Hannah Montana, battle gear and Barbie what Easter is about?

I meant to talk about my awesome Mother and her involvement with the campaign for single-payer health care. In the meantime, watch her video. It's in the post below. And write your congressman.

Our Health is at Stake

04 March 2008

I've Thought About It

It's been many years since I was spinning records every Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday night. And, it's been many years since a song has infected my brain like this one.

Love some Ida Corr. I know the video is sparse, the casting (male dancer) is awful (he apparently can't dance) and the song can be repetitive, but I can't help it. According to Energy 92.7 it's the most requested song on their playlist right now. I simply had to share.

Also find it here.

Hello, Evil. Satan Awaits. Enjoy Your Stay.

I hope to God that this is a hoax. But, I sincerely doubt it.

I just don't understand how we, supposedly an evolved species, can inflict harm on innocents for whatever gain. I'm simply speechless and in tears.

Maybe the asshole can bunk with Michael Vick in hell.

Three Days Later....

Usually, the Sunday edition of The Commercial Appeal features a story on the Addy Awards -- the day after the event. This year the story was delayed.

Advertisers win bragging rights
Federation hosts annual ADDY awards gala

By Jane Roberts
Tuesday, March 4, 2008

A week after Hollywood's red-carpet event, the Memphis advertising community hosted its own, a tribute to clever and the power of Madison Avenue's allure.

Carpenter Sullivan Sossaman, a hybrid of two onetime Memphis firms, received 17 gold and 20 silver ADDYs -- more than any other firm -- in the Memphis Advertising Federation's annual gala, held this year at the Fogelman Executive Center at the University of Memphis.

Carpenter won for projects it did for Bosco's, Methodist Healthcare and the Mid-South Fair.

dminmem note: here are the posters I worked on, for which we received six of our 17 Addys:

Close behind was archer>malmo, which won 13 golds and 16 silvers, many of them for work it created for client, the Memphis Roller Derby.

Combustion won 11 golds and 12 silvers and the Dale Oden Memorial Award for Outstanding Art Direction on the Mid-South Air Show poster.

Red Deluxe also won 11 golds, plus Best of Show and Best of Print for helping get first-time donors over needle-fright, a campaign it did for the American Red Cross; it also won the Jan Gardner Memorial Award for Outstanding Radio Copy for its Scripps/Yahoo! campaigns.

"We had 748 entries this year," said ADDY awards chairperson Susan Ewing from inferno. "That number is a little lower than normal. We have a few agencies no longer in business, and with the economy, people didn't have the opportunity to do as much work."

All gold winners will compete in the five-state district competition this month in Chattanooga.

"It's sort of like our Oscars; it's bragging rights," said Michael Guthrie, design director at Oden.

Besides the pageantry, the night is the Memphis advertising community's chance to see what its colleagues are doing, he said.

"Every year, there is always one simple campaign that sweeps the show. It becomes a big tsunami of wins. It's awesome."

Oden gives its ADDY awards to the clients. "They love it," Guthrie said. Their goal is not for us to win ADDYs, but when one does, it makes their day."

Much of the work in an ad agency is invisible to the general public, often because campaigns are designed for business-to-business use or because the technology that springs them loose is unseen.

This year's entries, for instance, included more interactive projects and in several new categories, including online games, e-mail and e-mail newsletters, Ewing said.

Entries were judged by professionals from BBDO, a worldwide agency based in New York; CapStrap, in Raleigh, N.C.; Hydra Studios, an interactive agency in Orlando, and the Miller Group in Los Angeles.

--Jane Roberts: 529-2512

Gold winners

Carpenter Sullivan Sossaman: 17 gold, 20 silver

archer>malmo: 13 gold, 16 silver

Combustion: 11 gold, 12 silver

Red Deluxe: 11 gold, 5 silver

Chung Design: 7 gold, 7 silver

Tactical Magic: 6 gold, 2 silver

Disciple Design: 2 gold, 8 silver

Oden: 2 gold, 1 silver

switch: 2 gold, 2 silver

Counterpart Communication + Design: 2 gold, 2 silver

Red Rover: 2 gold

inferno: 1 gold, 10 silver

Brian Casabella: 1 gold

Chandler Ehrlich: 1 gold

Hemline: 1 gold

03 March 2008

Days and Days

It feels like forever since I've posted. I don't have a lot to say right now, though.

The Addy Awards (at the local level) were this weekend. CS2 did very well. I brought home 6 Gold Addys for my Boscos posters.

Other than that, Cameron, Billie, Georgia and Edith are doing fine. We're all looking forward to spring.

I'm anticipating the outcome of tomorrow's primaries. But, right now I'm just too tired to really care. While I've mentioned before that I support Hillary, I'll support either candidate in the end.

It's time to go home.